I find the post really offensive against Joanna, her parents and an innocent man. I get that Nine is trying to defend Tabak and that is her choice - but a little bit of tact would not go amiss. Just awful!
OMG... I get nowhere.... You ask me to consider others feelings, I try, but you are not satisfied in the way I try to express what I mean.....
I tried really hard today... To stop looking at something as literal and you scoff at my efforts..... I can be blunt and I don't mean to be ... I have tried on may occasions to get you to understand how I look at things.... That when I see a gap, I question what should be in that gap..... I need it filling in..... I need a complete picture.... Well at least a complete picture from someone.... Anyone ..... Not a few answers on a statement that is read out in court , that I do not know whether it is the full statement and in what context I should interpret said statement....
I try my very best to be compassionate and you ridicule... That is not fair..... I cannot help how the words I write get interpreted by you or anyone else...... I am not in your head.... You are not in my head..... And I am sure you are relieved of that possibility.... So if you..... Mis-interpret my intentions, I can only apologise... I thought I had made myself clear.....
This is the difficulty with the written word.... It can be construed in many many forms, until it is unrecognisable as as the persons intentions or aims.....
I am not at fault if you cannot see what I see and what I am saying.... I again thought I was being kind..... CJ was vilified.... everyone knows.... I thought I would try and remember my christian background that I have left far behind, and remember the teachings of the bible.... I was trying to put someone elses feelings first.... But that has obviously backfired and is not helping.....
Do I write before every post I make.... "I am Not Pointing Fingers Here".... just incase someone may mis-interpret what point I intended to get across......
I'll go back to my usual style of writing, and prey you find what I write a little clearer.... And if I am not being compassionate enough, then , accept my apologise now.... I was trying to be Christian, falling back on what I had been taught as a girl..... And if you think I was pointing fingers at CJ, then If that had bee the case I would have been quoting from the Ten Commandments..... And
Though Shall Not Kill.... and that would have been at the top of the list.... Seeing as CJ is a religious man and that surely would have a far greater importance than me trying to as you say .... Point The Finger.... OMG... To suggest that is what I am trying to do is so Un-Christian of you...... There could have been other uses I could have had of the Ten Commandments, If I wanted to point the finger.....
Ten Commandments List(1): Thou shalt have no other gods before Me.
(2): Thou shalt make no idols.
(3): Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord your God in vain.
(4): Keep the Sabbath day holy.
(5): Honour your father and your mother.
(6): Thou Shalt not kill.
(7): Thou shall not commit adultery.
(8): Thou shall not steal.
(9): Thou shalt not bear false witness against your neighbour.
(10):Thou shalt not covet.
Anyone of those commandments I could have used to press CJ's buttons if I was pointing the finger.... And even now I could say he refused to testify because of his religious beliefs, and did not want to bear false witness... But i wasn't saying that I wasn't using the commandments.... I was simply trying to be a charitable person, remembering
how i had been taught as a young girl and give someone a little bit of grace......
But as usual, you mis-interpret me... You try to turn things around, you try to make them sound differently than what I meant.... I am not backwards at coming forwards... I am blunt unfortunately... I take many things literally....I call a spade a spade....
So do not now use this post to say I am trying to use the Ten Commandments against CJ... Just to justify the fact you cannot understand my meaning.....
The use of the TEN COMMANDMENTS is purely to show how if I was to point the finger I would use them and interpret them in many many many ways to make someone feel the guilt and to recognise what they have done in a way that would be of significance to them.....
But I am not... I am not going to do that.... But you always put me on the back-foot... Making me feel I need to explain myself time and time again..... Missing what I mean... and not understanding I was trying to be compassionate...
Oh My Lord... See you made me say it.... you made me say something that would have had me get a clip around the ear lug as a child.... Then I now think who am I upsetting now, when using words that may be misunderstood... when using phrases that can offend anyone.... You'll make me over think everything again... worrying that i may have unintentionally written something that someone has misunderstood... That I have offended someone in my literal way I think and sometimes speak....
I can't apologise for who I am.... But as you all know I take most things literally, maybe you will extend me the benefit of the doubt when you read my posts... maybe you will understand why I keep questioning the same things over and over again in different lights.... Because I cannot sort out something that doesn't make sense to me... I have to go over and over it again.... I have to understand why the evidence doesn't support the story told on the stand....
And whilst your suggestions of me looking at something in a different way may be beneficial, it is only beneficial, if I can comprehend something in said light that makes it palatable to anyone else.......
So I would appreciate in future , if you could give a little consideration to someone who doesn't see the world through your eyes, and may have a different perspective on how the world works.... and try a little bit harder to see my posts in the light they were intended!!
Thank you Nine....