Hope this is nothing to do with me 8-)(--)
Had you have been treated the way I was treated on Blue I rather think you would have wanted a platform to air your grievances Joanne. There's a clear audit trail on here for all to see. The problem I have is that some posters are allowed to post unfettered and others have their posts deleted or bans imposed.
If you're interested have a look on Blue, page #22 of the JB board on the thread entitled 'Adoption Debate'. This thread was started by Caroline (although it states Lugg). As you will see I was not keen on it being started as I new it would be controversial. I introduced lots of information which was fully supported by professionals and empirical data. Lookout launched a scathing attack rubbishing the information even though she had nothing of substance to back up her assertions. Not only that but I was told I was sad, unbalanced, in need of psycho-therapy, that I needed shooting as I said I thought June was an unsuitable adoptive mother and a whole load of other personal insults hurled at me. Sheila was accused of being promiscuous, stupid and displaying monstrous behaviour. No one said a word and I'm not the type to go running to a mod. I was quite happy to put up a robust defence and show Lookout up for the ignorant and self-opinionated person she is.
Months later I made a childish comment re knitting which was aimed at Lookout although I made no reference to her by name. For this I was banned. Now lets not forget that two of the three mods that made the decision to impose a temporary ban had been caught by me engaging in gossip and referring to me as a "total bitch" which was saved as a screenshot and displayed on the open forum. I suspect at least one of them was drunk and instead of sending a pm to the other posted up on the open forum by mistake. To my mind it rather begs the question of their impartiality over me as a poster and the pair in their role as mods. Oh and why was I deemed to be a "total bitch"...simply because I made it clear that I thought June was an unsuitable adoptive mother and Saggie as you probably know is an adoptive mother and it would appear is so sensitive/insecure that she chose to take the comment personally. I have never once criticised Saggie as an adoptive mother either on or off the forum. It is of no interest to me or relevant to the JB case. Only the family dynamics within the Bamber family and empirical data/research on adoption/adoptive families are relevant to JB's case not anecdotal evidence from Saggie's adoption experience, or mine, or April Fool's or Lookout's step-family.
When Saggie was made mod I pm'd NGB saying I was going to delete my account as I knew as sure as day is light that if a judgement call was to be made on me that it would only go one way with Saggie involved. He asked me to stay.
NGB had every opportunity to sort this out before it escalated. I contacted him the day after the ban was imposed. He could have sent a brief text, phone call or email saying he would look into the matter. He chose to ignore me. I have asked a poster on Blue to ask him for his email address to pass to me. Not because I want the ban lifted but because I want to discuss with him why I was treated to unfairly. Again no response.
In another example I posted up twice about this forum simply in relation to info on here that was not on Blue. In one post I said something along the lines of if we ask Mr Lamberton nicely he might allow us to copy it. Another I just nicked something from Red and posted it on Blue. Both posts were deleted by NGB simply because I made reference to this forum. Yet now Grahame is allowed to refer to this forum/its posters as Luny, misfits and disgusting.
I'm sorry I don't agree with you Joanne. Nowadays people expect to air their views/grievances and are usually given a platform for doing so. It is unacceptable to ban a long-standing member on a whim and will obviously only cause further problems. Why not create a section on Blue for feedback. That way posters can make a judgement call on posters' experience before joining. To my mind it is just a chaotic mess, which is a shame as with very little effort and no expense it could be improved but I am afraid like JB's case it is completely rudderless.
