If you want to trash me, then go ahead. I have suffered more than enough of that over the past 6 months, but my shoulders are fairly broad. Nevertheless this forum has affected my health with all the bullying, I have suffered on a many times daily basis.
Pat yourselves on the back that you have significantly reduced at least one pros health and possibly others.
As Kate correctly expresses, they were NOT the wrongdoer. The wrongdoer was the abductor. Same as a girl in a mini skirt that gets raped is NOT the wrongdoer either.
It amazes me that you cant see the difference.
I'm sorry that you're not feeling well Sadie and am saddened to hear that you've felt bullied. I haven't been here for six months, so can't comment in full, but I've always had the impression that you can give at least as good as you get. I personally have felt on times as though you've been quite rude to me with no provocation at all. I'm fine with that, I haven't felt bullied and simply put it down to feelings running high when people don't see eye to eye, but the point is that maybe if you were a little less quick to snap at people, they may treat you with more courtesy in return.
Any disagreement I have with your opinions is not a disagreement with you, the person behind the screen. Any slight against the Mccanns, either real or perceived, is not a slight against you.
To address your point about blaming the Mccanns being like blaming a rape victim for wearing a short skirt, firstly, shouldn't that be 'like blaming a rape victims parents for letting her go out in a short skirt'? Madeleine was the victim of a crime, not her parents.
Secondly, although the language that is used does some times sound like blame, I think 'shoulder some responsibility' is a better way of describing it.
I disagree that they have accepted any responsibility for their part in Madeleine's disappearance. The children shouldn't have been alone. They shouldn't have been out of ear shot. They were.
If there was indeed an abductor, they are to blame for their actions. S/he is not absolved from responsibility because the parents failed in their duty of care.
I hope you're feeling better soon Sadie and look forward to seeing your posts and picking your brains about PDL in the very near future x