There were three calls. The first at around 10pm on Tuesday when soon after returning home from the farm, Bamber forwarned Julie that "Tonight's the night" (or similar wording); the second sometime after 3am when Bamber said that there was trouble at the farm, so Julie told him to go back to bed because everything would be alright in the morning; the third after 6am from a call box in Tolleshunt D'Arcy when Bamber told her not to go to work because a police car would pick her up and bring her to his Goldhanger cottage. This last call is the one I think CAL was referring to, when after spending a sleepless night, the penny finally dropped and Julie realised that he'd carried out his plan.
If Julie ‘realised’ at that moment Bamber had carried out his plan - I think she’d have confided in one of her flat mates and wouldn’t have gone to Goldhanger
Am of the view Julie’s ‘
realisation’ is not as clear cut as some observers seem to think
Bamber had already eroded Julie’s reality by the time of ‘the three calls’
https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2017/11/50-shades-of-gaslighting-the-disturbing-signs-an-abuser-is-twisting-your-reality/If Julie had interpreted Bamber’s ’tonight’s the night’ comment as meaning he planned to kill his family - why would she tell him during the next call to ‘go back to bed’?
By this stage of their relationship - as the linked article ‘
50 shades of gaslighting’ suggests - I doubt Julie was able to ‘
trust herself or her instincts’