What are people's views on Julie Mugford? I lurch between she must have been terrified to breathe a word... if he can wipe out his own parents, sister and his two little nephews, what more is he capable of? etc. However, then she accompanies him on his little 'trips' and to the funeral. Wouldn't any sane rational person ave run a bl**dy mile? or 500 miles! Don't get me wrong, she bravely took the stand and gave a creditable account, but still it all feels quite strange. She was very young and besotted by a man, but she was also an intelligent woman. I am certain the jury would have thought about this, and they still found him guilty, so it isn't for me a dealbreaker, but I have always wondered.
Julie Mugford was involved with an extremely dangerous and highly disordered man. IMO, leading up to and following the murders she would not have been able to see the wood through the trees due to Jeremy Bamber's pathological mind games and all that comes with these types of relationships. I speak from my own experiences.
I'm sure with hindsight she'd wished she'd have run a bloody mile but she was under Bamber's spell, also referred to as the psychopathic bond.
http://psychopathsandlove.com/stages-of-the-psychopathic-relationship/And as I've pointed out before, Julie would have had a trauma bond with Bamber
https://victimsofpsychopaths.wordpress.com/stockholm-syndrome/"Pathological mind games. Covert and overt put-downs. Triangulation. Gaslighting. Projection. These are the manipulative tactics survivors of malignant narcissists are unfortunately all too familiar with. As victims of silent crimes where the perpetrators are rarely held accountable, survivors of narcissistic abuse have lived in a war zone of epic proportions, enduring an abuse cycle of love-bombing and devaluation—psychological violence on steroids." quote by Shahida Arabi a Narcissitic abuse expert
Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome is a condition that’s triggered by being in a warzone with a Narcisisstic personality in command (or multiple ones). "Unlike physical abuse where a single strike or blow, often leaves marks or bruises and qualifies an act of domestic violence, narcissistic abuse is invisible. Narcissistic abuse is the sum of many unseen injuries. It’s an indiscernible assault on the spirit, identity, and the psyche of the victim. The impact is cumulative, and its full effect isn't felt until the damage is extensive. Although bruises and broken bones heal much faster than a broken spirit, narcissistic abuse tends to go unnoticed because there aren’t any laws prohibiting mind games, browbeating, or name calling."
http://narcissisticvictimsyndrome.comNAS often develops as the result of psychological and emotional abuse, spiritual abuse, gaslighting, baiting and bashing, belittiling, hidden abuse, shaming, projection, smear campaigns, a false narrative, threats, distortion of conversations, circular conversations, word salad games, exploitative games, refusal to ever have a normal conversation, diversion and false accusations, omition of facts for the benefit of one person and the destruction of another. It is a type of PTSD. It often causes victims to feel defenseless and beaten down.
"When the victim has been romantically targeted by a psychopath, others may sincerely try to empathize with the victim, but as experts point out, most people really can’t understand what the victim has been through in a relationship with a psychopath unless they have been the victim of a psychopath themselves. The depth and level of the mind f*ck of a without conscience psychopath is really indescribable.
Sandra L BrownThankfully Essex police recognised this!