Am I the only one who has seen the DNA results showing Melinda can't be John Ramsey's biological daughter?
Did that lack of paternity affect John's "love" for Melinda, was the bond spoilt by some sort of primal instinct of nature? (Going back to my first discovered discrepancy in this case covered in the first post of this thread.)
It has been said many times to me, "you mustn't have favourites amongst your kids". But John Ramsey certainly did, and we can't turn the clock back and change that, and the clock has been made worse by the death of Jonbenet.
Are the laws of Nature playing more tricks here?
"Are humans monogamous?" one answer was quite considered "I once read a debate between two anthropologists on that subject. One, (a male) was pointing out the typical “male” mating strategy common among many animals. Spread the genes. Have as many mates as possible.
Or as the King Of Siam said, “the bee flits from flower to flower, the flower does not flit from bee to bee”.
The other scientist (a female) pointed out the evolutionary advantage of pair-bonding. Successful child-rearing, provision, protection, etc, etc. That human beings had a natural tendency to pair bond.
We might bear in mind that for much of our evolutionary history, life-spans were short. Child-bearing was dangerous and infant deaths were high. In terms of population… It might have been better to “spread the seed around”.
But….We also evolved in small, inter-related groups of hunter-gatherers and if our cousins the great apes are any indication, only the Alpha Male had the privilege of mating with the females. Younger, subordinate males did not, unless they snuck off into the bushes. (This has been observed in chimps… Even between members of different clans)
So… Looks complex, doesn’t it? Certainly in human history we see a great deal of cheating going on. Lets face it, prostitution was common in all early civilizations.
But there’s been no lack of “cheating” among females as well, even with the high risk of pregnancy and societal condemnation.
(Generally not the case for men)
We see as well the phenomena where, for instance, a man is quite “loyal” to the wife/family and remains a good provider and all, and yet seeks out mating partners outside the marriage. In some societies, this is almost a status symbol. To maintain a mistress is a sign of wealth and power. Not at all uncommon among our “world leaders”.
My gut feeling on the whole thing is that men are generally more willing to seek out sexual experiences outside of existing relationships.
They do not often require any sort of emotional commitment for this."
https://www.quora.com/Are-humans-monogamous?redirected_qid=42975280But what happens if one of the strays lands in your own nest? IMO most people don't know how they will cope, and I don't believe it is a matter of thinking about it, it is more instinctive than thought.