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Title: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 05, 2014, 10:02:41 AM
I am trying to find the definition of responsibilities in the scenario below. Does that mean we become one person?
http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/government-administrative-law/76462-what-definition-marriage-vows-3.html What is the definition of "marriage vows" ? Friend In Court Top Level Member
Only divorce can change the status of married parties. If one is incapacitated, it complicates the divorce process, too. No third party can intervene in the relationship. The spouse assumes responsibilities of the marriage when the other is incapacitated.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Mr Moderator on August 05, 2014, 11:53:57 AM
I am trying to find the definition of responsibilities in the scenario below. Does that mean we become one person?
http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/government-administrative-law/76462-what-definition-marriage-vows-3.html What is the definition of "marriage vows" ? Friend In Court Top Level Member
Only divorce can change the status of married parties. If one is incapacitated, it complicates the divorce process, too. No third party can intervene in the relationship. The spouse assumes responsibilities of the marriage when the other is incapacitated.
Possibly morally but not legally since anyone who is mentally disabled has the right to be legally represented by a trustee or guardian.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 07, 2014, 12:29:47 PM
Wow, can that be true, can this happen to a spouse after being happily married for over 30 years, that decisions would be put into a strangers hands to make important decisions for your spouse? What if the third party is corrupt.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on August 08, 2014, 07:26:31 AM
Wow, can that be true, can this happen to a spouse after being happily married for over 30 years, that decisions would be put into a strangers hands to make important decisions for your spouse? What if the third party is corrupt.
What if The Spouse is corrupt?
Actually, if I am correct in assuming. There is a deed whereby the two parties in a marriage can designate this responsibility to the other while still capacitated. After the event The Law can step in and will probably win. This deed can also be signed in favour of any child of the marriage.
It seems like a good idea if you don't want to pay The Court of Protection large amounts of money for the right to deal with the affairs of your spouse. ie. Also if you don't want to pay The Court of Protection large amounts of money for the right to deal with the affairs of your mother and or your father.
The Court of Protection is a big con as far as I can see.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 08, 2014, 12:01:07 PM
So the spouse is guilty even though they have been happily married for 30 years. I am just trying to understand the logic in that, when an unknown party calling themselves the law can step in and take over their lives.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on August 08, 2014, 12:51:46 PM
So the spouse is guilty even though they have been happily married for 30 years. I am just trying to understand the logic in that, when an unknown party calling themselves the law can step in and take over their lives.
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No, the spouse is not necessarily guilty. But if one of the parties is incapacitated, who is to prove that they were happily married? This is why these agreements should be jointly signed while they both sound as though they know what they are talking about. Although this isn't always a safeguard against spousal bullying.
The Court of Protection does have absolute power should even the smallest question be raised. And will take it.
Try googling Anna Raccoon's Blog. There is a section on The Court of Protection. And there isn't much that she doesn't know about it.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 09, 2014, 08:43:07 AM
Well I'm still trying to make some sense out of it, 30 years of good and loving relationship, confirm by witnesses, the spouse family, relatives on-both sides, neighbors, police records on family abuse, balanced against an unknown third party calling themselves the court of protection, may I say that don't really have a good name with the huge amount of allegations against them http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1222764/Secret-court-seizes-3-2bn-elderly-mentally-impaired.html
Have you tried exploiting the logic, that everyone above the age of 18 would have to take a deed or a LPA out on every member of there family, I dread to think the cost, and how many 18 year old think of these things.
I personally think that our lawmakers should pursue the things that they are good at, pedophilia, then destroying the lives of family's.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 14, 2014, 09:58:39 AM
Well from what I can see that these laws are administrative laws, subordinate's to the rule of law.
Well basically they have brought in these laws to undermine the week and can't ill afford to bring it to court, nevertheless it does not make it right but only to further deceive the public. Well it brings into question does this ministers have the right to do what they have done. Magna carta and the declaration of rights. http://www.britishconstitutiongroup.com/british-constitution
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on August 14, 2014, 10:11:15 AM
Well from what I can see that these laws are administrative laws, subordinate's to the rule of law.
Well basically they have brought in these laws to undermine the week and can't ill afford to bring it to court, nevertheless it does not make it right but only to further deceive the public. Well it brings into question does this ministers have the right to do what they have done. Magna carta and the declaration of rights. http://www.britishconstitutiongroup.com/british-constitution
Yep. That's about it. The Court of Protection is an abomination, in my opinion. They can even imprison people in secret if they think someone has broken their laws. Although it is becoming more open due to a large amount of fuss kicked up by people who went to The Press.
But you need to think very carefully before doing that. Not a course of action that I would advise, unless you can cope with having your life ripped apart.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 14, 2014, 11:32:22 AM
I totally agree with you, using the tools that society provides is certainly not the answer, but in keeping my family at bay from the hounds it has cost me dearly financially the system is a trap for those who think’s there is help, but conditions attached could remove your right's and destroy your family.
I believe there is no current resolution, the only logical one at present is revolution for change. http://www.davidicke.com/forum/showthread.php?t=278658
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on August 14, 2014, 11:44:38 AM
I totally agree with you, using the tools that society provides is certainly not the answer, but in keeping my family at bay from the hounds it has cost me dearly financially the system is a trap for those who think’s there is help, but conditions attached could remove your right's and destroy your family.
I believe there is no current resolution, the only logical one at present is revolution for change. http://www.davidicke.com/forum/showthread.php?t=278658
I am so sorry that you are having such trouble. As if you needed any more problems.
I was advised ages ago about signing this deed, giving my children rights over my affairs. I haven't done it. But I live in France where the Laws regarding Family are very different to UK. As it is, I don't have a husband, and my children will be expected to care for me, or else. France doesn't mess about when it comes to family.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: John on August 14, 2014, 12:18:56 PM
I can empathise with your predicament Colin. My late aunt designated me as her trustee and sole power of attorney but the Scottish Crown saw fit to challenge my aunts decision and painted me as some sort of embezzler even though every single member of our family refute the Crowns position.
Make sense of that if you can?
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 14, 2014, 09:31:03 PM
Well Eleanor, there is not much I can do about this scenario we are in now, as a 24/7 carer I do not have any time to myself, my wife is extremely demanding through no fault of her own, our lives transform in a second when washing machines hit her falling from the height of 30 feet at Costco's.
I just cannot come to terms with what has happened to her, they have destroyed both of our lives, I cannot even do anything about it if I am to care for her.
Well you are living in France, lucky you they don't take any nonsense there and they have a better standard of living, we are extremely tolerant here so we deserve what we get but that is the British way.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 14, 2014, 10:20:43 PM
Hi John, it is certainly mind blowing.
My wife is not registered as disabled so we are still living as an ordinary married couple, I do not claim any allowance or asked for any help, so I do not here a word from them, even though I could claim for everything I do not want anything to do with them, I would have to declare that my wife has no mental capacity to obtain any help but I am managing to pull through even though it is extremely hard and soul destroying, no 1 to talk to that makes any sense, I am lucky if I get two hours sleep on the trot.
But one of the things that keep me going is that I will get Justice one way or another when my responsibilities to my wife is over, they will probably send over one of their hit man but by then I would not have anything to worry about.
John you may be interested in this website. Victims unite. http://victims-unite.net/2014/08/14/mind-the-gap-between-policies-and-reality-court-secrecy-unlawful-imprisonments-and-the-national-inquiry-into-organised-child-sexual-abuse/
Democracy? No, Britain is now a judicial dictatorship and it’s time for a revolution.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on August 15, 2014, 07:12:52 AM
Colin, can I ask if your wife got any compensation for this? But please don't feel forced to answer if you would rather not.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 15, 2014, 11:18:35 AM
Eleanor, please feel free to ask me anything I am really quite transparent.
Well the short answer is NO, it is a long story we thought the offer was an insult, and decided that we really should take this case to court, people should know that Costco's stacked eight washing machines with hardly any Clingfilm round it and stacked it up to the height of 30 feet on the highest racking.
Well our Solicitor wasn't having that, he turned into Hitler believe me the whole thing is corrupted, first he said he was going to remove himself of the records, and then changed his mind when he realize we was sticking to our guns, and brought in an official Solicitor to take over our positions, none of us or even family members had any say in it.
I wasn't in any position by then to be fighting the system, a psychologists on LinkedIn said to me, don't pursue them and neglect your wife, that is what they want, they will have there punishment when the time comes. I have to say I totally agree with her, my wife needed my full attention caged in a body casts for five months temperatures reaching 100° it is all just a nightmare for her.
I believe in opening one of the letters for her from the official Solicitor saying that they want a report from an expert saying that she has or has not the mental capacity for the money to be release from the court, my wife was not in any position to fulfill that, so we have not heard anything for years.
Well to get a tiny idea of what hell we been true here is a link. http://colinberry2.wordpress.com/2013/12/12/pleading-for-justice/
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on August 16, 2014, 07:23:36 AM
Dear Colin, What a horror story. And such a pretty woman.
So is this money being held by The Court of Protection? Why can you not get an assessment of your wife's mental capacity to be done at your home? I am assuming that she is not mentally impaired, but you will know that better than anyone. Have you tried your MP?
The Court of Protection may have massive powers, but I don't think they can drag someone from their home without massive repercussions if they don't want to go. So possibly a good idea not to get too paranoid about it. Keeping hold of someone's money is a bit different from removing a person against their will. And the fact that you need help in caring for your wife would not give them that right.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 16, 2014, 08:11:30 AM
Well Eleanor, I can see that you are light years away from reality, I was approached by huge groups victims of this form of corruption and was warned what lies ahead, no my wife is not under the court of protection because she has a spouse, legally they have no rights, but from my knowledge on how they operate anything is possible, they create their own laws as they go along and protect themselves through the secret courts they hold and in prison those for speaking out, I have collated, a huge amount on this subject and I will give you a link to my pearltrees. http://www.pearltrees.com/colinberry1/guardianship-abuse/id8141326
Check out the Perl on Court of Protection, it would scare you that the UK is quite famous in the European courts for breaking human rights on helpless individuals such as my wife.
I made this video for this group who made me realize the scam involve with families that have money or money due to them, http://youtu.be/j9eJG6fmXP0
(The daughter Yvonne in the video was in prison for speaking out about their case.)
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 16, 2014, 09:19:07 AM
Reactions I receive from other people>......................... You Do Not Own Me http://ladyguinevere.hubpages.com/hub/You-Do-Not-Own-Me
Well Lady Guinevere after my wife's accident, I have been a 24/7 carer for her, having to close a long established business, I had to readapt my whole life around her basically losing all of our friends, it is amazing to realize how shallow friendships are. I would not be here if I did not think the world of her, it is difficult to deal with someone that you love who does not at times know where she is or everything that we take for granted, I have been caring for her since 4th of April 2003, all I can say this is a totally mad job, I personally do not think if I was in her situation, she would not be able to cope doing it for me. I basically hardly have any sleep longer than two hours at a stretch, I have to remind her or convince her to go to the toilet every two hours clean her when she is finish, while she is screaming her head off, what am I doing trying at the same time to stop her from moving. Well you see my wife had cancer of the bowels, nearly 20 years ago and she had to control her movement by taking 8 Imodium capsules a day, well I cannot give her that now because she has forgotten how to strain and she would be forever blocked up. I know where you are coming from, you don't know how caring and loving people are until you are in the position when you depend totally on others, just like our friend's and neighbors, they will tolerate helping out once or twice but keep away if it's going to be often, and they all advice me now to put her in a home, I know it is a nightmare but I cannot bear to think that I let her go. As for my previous post I was only answering the heading {you do not own me) I just did not realize how much our society had control over us until the accident, and how corrupted the whole system is, on top of that I had to also fight for justice to what they had done to my wife.http://colinberry2.wordpress.com/2013/12/12/pleadi... I have given up all of that now and have to give my wife my full attention to keep her sane. ----------------------------------------------- A Private Message from someone on hubpages. Colin, you must be living in a never ending hell. I am so sorry that you and your wife must spend your golden years together faced with these insurmountable challenges.
I, too, had to have a third of my large intestine removed due to intestinal cancer. I did not have a choice in the surgery, but they forget to tell me of the problems I would face because of the missing section of the colon. The section of colon removed was the section where re-absorption of excess water is taken back into the body.
With this process removed, all the water comes rushing through the large intestine. I can never be far from a bathroom. I have found no medication which can be trusted to get me past a few hours.
Sir, it sounds like you are having to deal with much more than the intestinal issues at hand. Dementia is a most terrible disease which is too much for any family member
to handle. In most all cases, a facility for the patient is
the only option. You, kind sir, in all your loving compassion, are not equipped to handle this devastating
situation. You have been a committed care giver, but you
can do only so much. You must maintain your health, from this time forward. What would happen to your Mary if you work yourself into an early grave?
I encourage you to look into a facility that is best suited for Mary's needs. Your job is finished. Even though you are tired and do not feel like continuing, your journey is
not over. You have grown children and possibility grand
children. You have a place in their lives, and I encourage
you to move forward from this day on.
Your experience with Costco must seem like a nightmare. Sadly, we do not live in a world where right always wins over wrong. Without the proper legal representation, you do no stand a chance of any substantial financial gain. You can bet their highly paid retainer lawyers are the best when it comes to litigations
such as these.
Once again, I urge you to get Mary into a facility which specializes in the care that she needs.
I wish you well in your future endeavors,
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on August 16, 2014, 06:32:31 PM
I would agree with the above advice, Colin, if things are as bad as you say. But quite possibly you cannot bear the thought.
But would it not be better to consider this now, while you still have some control, and before you yourself are ill? At which point you would have no control at all.
I am so sorry that I cannot be of any help.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 17, 2014, 09:17:18 AM
Eleanor you have been a great help just by communicating with me on the subject, I do not expect people to understand unless you're going through the scenario yourself, lawyers who are reading this thread understand quite well including the judiciary but unfortunately they all belong to the same club.
My wife used to work in a care home, one of them scared her with the going on there, and I told her she best leave, 3 weeks later a male carer was prosecuted for killing quite a few elderly people there, believe me I can go on and on I just hope that things will change when we finally find ourselves there.
Well I have been at my wits end for years now to the point that I cannot even communicate about it. I have been looking for her slippers for several hours now and still cannot find it, she tends to hide them, she does not know that she has to have them on her feet so I have to keep on that it is dangerous not having them on, I still cannot find one side of her slippers generally I don't have any problem in doing so because it is just place in funny awkward places the majority of the time is under the settee, hopefully my elders son be round today so I can do some shopping, I'm hoping that he would find them while I am away shopping.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on August 17, 2014, 10:12:54 AM
Talk away, Colin. Talking about horrible things sometimes helps to put them into perspective for your own sake.
Maybe your wife doesn't like wearing slippers, which could be why she hides them. And is it really dangerous? I have been walking around bare foot, inside and out, for all of my life during the Summers, and I have never done anything dreadful to my feet. It's called "Grounding", by the way. Something to do with negative ions and being good for your general health. There is a lot about it on Google. Grass and earth are best.
I very much doubt that anything awful will happen to your wife in a care home with you around to see that it doesn't. And some of them are good and caring. You just have to find one that you are happy with.
Perhaps try some other subjects on this Forum. Just to take your mind off your problems for a minute. It does help, believe me. Not that I have ever suffered anything even remotely similar. But sometimes when I can't sleep for quite ordinary reasons, like old age, reading and commenting on the problems of other people does help.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 17, 2014, 11:15:09 AM
Well yes Eleanor, but she has always worn a slipper, after work put her feet up on the settee, now she refuse to laydown and constantly getting up, I know in homes they put them on opiates to be able to manage them, but apparently that does not do the brains any favor. The way she is here she depreciates an inch a day but in homes they depreciate much quicker, because the drugs slow them down so they are manageable. I do realize I'm not doing myself any favors, but at the end of the day what are we really here four?
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on August 17, 2014, 11:55:39 AM
Well yes Eleanor, but she has always worn a slipper, after work put her feet up on the settee, now she refuse to laydown and constantly getting up, I know in homes they put them on opiates to be able to manage them, but apparently that does not do the brains any favor. The way she is here she depreciates an inch a day but in homes they depreciate much quicker, because the drugs slow them down so they are manageable. I do realize I'm not doing myself any favors, but at the end of the day what are we really here four?
Perhaps just let her give up Slippers, Colin. One less chore for you. And I honestly don't think it matters.
And yes, I do know about some Care Homes. I used to do the laundry for one such, and it was pretty disgusting in the way in which they used Opiates. But they aren't all like this. And some of them have moved on towards stimulating their Guests. They might even be better at it than you can be. What was happening twenty years ago, isn't necessarily happening now. You just have to try to find one.
I have a suspicion that you think your wife might be devastated because you will have abandoned her. When she might not even notice, if she has some of her precious things around her. If you do decide to do this then it has to be done with great care. Telling her that you are both going on a holiday is not such a bad one.
We should all be here to do the best we can for anyone that we truly love, or even those we don't. But it isn't always in their own homes.
I hope that my children will know the difference.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 17, 2014, 01:09:51 PM
Well Eleanor, I don't know who she thinks I am, a figment of her imagination someone that tells her what she has to do, when I have to give her a bath she will scream out for Colin to come and help her as if I am some person that making her do things she does not want to, I have to say to her I am Colin you have to have a bath and then she would start pleading with me that she does not want one.
I belong to most of the elderly and dementia websites, I don't think that things have changed much even though the US seem to be more efficient then us, family carers still say there have the same problems with opiates, even though they give strict instructions that they do not want the drug to be administer, they are just ignored, I suppose it would be extremely difficult for them to manage the patients without administering it.
I think if you turn up at random and find out how many carers are there on duty compared to the patients needing care, that alone would answer it all, at the end of the day it is business that wants to make as much profit as they can.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on August 17, 2014, 01:34:17 PM
There is your answer, Colin. Anyone could be Colin so long as he isn't actually there in her mind.
So bloody, awfully sad. But it happens. My step grandmother became senile, and she was horrible to my stepmother, who really cared, and suffered greatly.
I do believe that sometimes you just have to give up before it kills you. At which point you will be of no use to anyone. And not even able to visit and see if she is being looked after. That is the bottom line.
But it isn't my place to tell you what you should do. None of this is your fault, and only you can decide.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Angelo222 on August 17, 2014, 01:47:06 PM
My partner works in a high dependency Alzheimer's unit and it is devastating to see how once intelligent human beings revert to bring almost babies. I agree with Eleanor that with the best will in the world one person cannot give someone suffering with dementia the care they need for ever. You have to think of yourself too Colin and I'm sure your wife wouldn't want you to wear yourself out nursing her indefinitely. There are special units like that in which my partner works and they are equipped to give their residents the best possible end to their lives.
Care homes have come a long way and are regularly assessed by the local authority responsible. Residents are not given drugs to quieten them these days, that is an enduring myth. Only in mental care units are those sorts of drugs given and then only in the worst cases. All drugs are very closely monitored by doctors these days.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 17, 2014, 01:47:34 PM
Well Eleanor if the solicitors had done their job, I could have manage this whole scenario in a better position then what I am in, to think after all this nightmare I have been through, I would still have another nightmare in front of me, having to deal with this injustice, that would probably finished me off anyway.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 17, 2014, 02:12:14 PM
Hi Angelo222, yes sometimes when she is asleep, I look at her and I cannot believe what has happened to her, she always likes to keep me company when we go shopping, to think in a flash she had become another person.
I must say it does kill my soul sometimes, but I realize that is how life is and have to except what lays ahead beyond our control.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: John on August 17, 2014, 02:21:30 PM
If I might add my tuppence Colin. My ex has worked in care homes for 25 years and up until quite recently worked in an Alzheimer's facility. It is a difficult job with some residents screaming all day and others asking the same question every two minutes. To be honest I don't know how nurses and carers work in these units for such low pay unless they are dedicated.
Like most things there are good and bad, I would suggest you research the facilities in your local area and go and meet the staff and see what the environment is like. You can visit care homes at any time so it is not as if they are able to do anything while closed to the public. I guarantee you will come away with a different impression.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 17, 2014, 03:18:21 PM
Hi John, yes I am a custom to care homes, I use to go every day to feed Mary's mum and massage her leg's, she would not take food from anyone except us, her previous care home got the priests to give her the last rights, we moved her to another home and she lived on for a further year, the strong woman waited till we came round in the evening and when I massaged her legs she knew it was me and took a deep breath and died in our arms.
Dementia/Alzheimer's, yes it is a mad scenario you need patients of a Saint and extremely forgiving and put everything behind you, and always start a new day. They never warn me that impact injuries can also eventually turn to Dementia/Alzheimer's, it is quite common amongst boxes and American football players, I had to find out from American lawyers. My wife had bruising on the left side of her head that is where amyloid's build up in dementia, bearing in mine that she was hit by washing machines falling from 30 feet.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 17, 2014, 03:40:16 PM
This is where my wives compensation is kept, why should we have to go and claim it, this money they have belongs to the people like my wife that had been badly injured and they should give her the money, PUBLIC TRUST OFFICE: UNCLAIMED BALANCES HELD IN COURT AND THE OFFICE'S 1998-99 ACCOUNTS
Page 2 then tells you that the unclaimed balances from 1726 to the present day (17-4-2000) amounts to £32.3 million!
It is no wonder that they changed everything and the Public Trust Office was replaced by the Office of the Public Guardian.
What has happened to this money?
The Court Funds Office had difficulty in finding me on their records.
This booklet is 17 pages long, A4 size and was published by Authority of the House of Commons, for £8.00.
Would you like me to scan and send it to you?
My copy came from Amazon but it is tamped on the inside as, "E.C.C. Libraries" and was listed as "withdrawn stock."
Cheers, David
The Airline Pilot's story. All in the mind? http://www.oprus2001.co.uk/pilot.htm
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Holly Goodhead on August 17, 2014, 03:48:24 PM
Oh Brilliant we have some new emoticons *&*%£ So much fun! And so much better than Blue...ha, ha, ha eat ya heart out @)(++(*
I think it takes a certain type to work in a care home for the elderly and not something I could do. I have not had cause to visit one but I know of others who have, either to visit relatives or work. It seems to me the work is very demanding both physically and mentally with substantial responsibility. Although I understand the pay and conditions are poor. Why is this? Why can someone work in another industry eg financial services and be rewarded generously often for fleecing all and sundry when others are caring for the elderly in a demanding environment and receive poor pay and conditions?
I think care homes are often staffed from agencies where huge disparities exist between what the agency is paid and what the agency worker receives? I have not researched the costing's, liabilities etc but on the surface it seems something is amiss here?
I would like to have a living will drawn up and if I am unable to meet a certain criteria along the lines of the 'Acitivities of Daily Living' I would prefer to be put down. Bit like a dog I guess @)(++(*
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 17, 2014, 04:12:40 PM
Hi Holly Goodhead, the only roster I could find, but it would give you a rough idea. http://www.rqia.org.uk/cms_resources/Staffing%20Guidelines%20for%20Residential%20Care%20Homes.pdf
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Holly Goodhead on August 20, 2014, 09:09:20 AM
Hi Holly Goodhead, the only roster I could find, but it would give you a rough idea. http://www.rqia.org.uk/cms_resources/Staffing%20Guidelines%20for%20Residential%20Care%20Homes.pdf
Hi colinberry
*&(+(+ for the link.
Page 2 is a bit worrying where it states:
"2.4 Competency and Experience of staff
The competency levels of all staff should be determined by the registered person. Regulation 21 (5) (b) of The Residential Care Homes Regulations (Northern Ireland) 2005 states that a person is not fit to work at a home unless: -
“He has the qualifications or training suitable to the work that he is to perform, and the skills and experience necessary for such work.”
So it appears that there's no standard minimum qualification just that the 'registered person' deems him/her suitable based on the above criteria which is surely open to much interpretation. &%+((£
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 20, 2014, 09:49:50 AM
Well Holly, I have been at it for 12 years now and knew nothing about caring for others, all I knew is when my wife had her horrific injury I had full responsibilities to make sure that everything was done for her that she could not do. I guess you don't have to be brilliant to care for people, in my case all it took was love an understanding knowing what have to be done, it requires a lot of common sense and you will grow with the problem as it progress.
I guess the reality is you cannot go to college to learn how to be honest and have commonsense, most of the requirements are in your general programming on how you look after yourself if you have any problems of that kind, so it you are a lazy person that do not know how to take responsibilities taking care of your appearance and general hygiene requirements, I guess you will make a lousy carer.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 20, 2014, 10:26:05 AM
Well Holly, the general logic we possess for example wearing slippers, in case there was objects on the floor that could penetrate your feet, if you trod on it you would naturally go down and pick it out your foot, but someone with late stage dementia would not know what is happening, you now have the responsibility to realize that there is a problem, you may trace the problem to there feet, but convincing the patient that you have to remove it is a totally different scenario, first of all they may not know what is feet, then you have the struggle trying to get to their feet, a different scenario trying to remove it in the midst of the screaming and yelling trying to keep the patient still, alternatives, going to Hospital, having to have her sedated is another problem again, the easy way is to make sure she has her slippers on at all times.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on August 20, 2014, 12:31:32 PM
Well Holly, the general logic we possess for example wearing slippers, in case there was objects on the floor that could penetrate your feet, if you trod on it you would naturally go down and pick it out your foot, but someone with late stage dementia would not know what is happening, you now have the responsibility to realize that there is a problem, you may trace the problem to there feet, but convincing the patient that you have to remove it is a totally different scenario, first of all they may not know what is feet, then you have the struggle trying to get to their feet, a different scenario trying to remove it in the midst of the screaming and yelling trying to keep the patient still, alternatives, going to Hospital, having to have her sedated is another problem again, the easy way is to make sure she has her slippers on at all times.
But your wife obviously doesn't like slippers, so I suppose you must have to battle with her to get them on, when you can find them. You said the other day that this can take hours. So what do you do in these circumstances? Does she mind wearing shoes?
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 20, 2014, 06:29:55 PM
Eleanor, in circumstances like this, I have to put on her a lightweight pair of shoes till I find the other pair, but sometimes I would turn round and find her having the odd pair of slippers with her shoes, she does not know left from right any more, it is easier to wait when she is dropping off to swap them round then to do it when she is awake, because she will not allow that to happen, she thinks you are trying to deny her from her slippers or shoes. I know it is all rather mad, but that is how it is.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 21, 2014, 11:42:31 AM
I was told to obtain a guardianship order for my wife. I don't have time with all of her care. Is there a way around this? http://www.agingcare.com/Questions/way-around-guardianship-order-163668.htm?cpage=0&post=1&cm=388784&z=1#388784
I never knew how ignorant people can be, I was trying to obtain advice on, guardianship order, and this is the sort of answers I receive, not having the time to answer some of them, I thought they were supposed to email me if anybody posted a thread. ------------------------------------------- Colin in a previous post you stated that the money now tied up is partly Mary's but a large amount is due to you for the losses you have sustained in giving up your life to devote to caring for your wife. I have not heard of anyone on this site say they are caring for a loved one or a relative they feel a duty towards, for MONEY. yes there are some out there who try and succeed in skimming the cream off the estate and dumping the relative in a NH on Medicaid. But most stories relate to the financial sacrifices that caregivers make We don't know you so can not judge your motives harsh as this sounds, we can not talk to Mary. In the present circumstances her care is assured whether you like the methods or not. You have said no one else would care for Mary so what happens if you are struck by lightening? Good care is expensive but thank God or Costco the money is there for her comfort Mary is the one who had her life ruined with no prospect of recovery the money is available for her personal care for the rest of her life. Did you sue Costco for the loss of Mary as a wife? I would feel more sympathy if you said you needed money to make alterations to the house for Mary's comfort, maybe a spa, motorized wheel chair of other advanced medical equipment. You are simply trying to have Mary declared incompetent to get your hands on her money. Can you justify your position? I do not know how we could help here if you have already invested $400K fighting authorities. I think this is what CM is also trying to understand. http://www.agingcare.com/Questions/way-around-guardianship-order-163668.htm?cpage=0&post=1&cm=388784&z=1#388784 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Wow Veronica91, extremely hard words. I did not realize that you had posted this thread here. I hope such a nightmare like this never happened to you, in one second I lost my wife, and became a 24/7 carer, an establish business for nearly 20 years I had to close it, lost all of our friends and neighbors, had to distance ourselves from everyone to save them the embarrassment of making excuses why they could not help, currently we are both surviving on our pensions. Well as far as this big money I'm after, I have managed to spend all of our lives savings, both my parents have died since and using what they had left me from their estate. I am yet to see the money that is suppose to be due to us for this nightmare of this horrific incident, I realize when this is all over, if I survive I have to obtain justice from this pathetic legal and judicial system, please forgive my soul and don't think for a moment that money played any importance in this scenario, if it had I would have dropped all of my responsibilities to my wife and pursue the money due to us. Veronica91, you say you don't know us well if you bother to Google colinberry1 there is enough of information on the Internet about us and our family, but as for Veronica91, you could even be Costco's solicitors for all I know. If you at all interested in our situation, there is everything about me on my pearltree, http://www.pearltrees.com/colinberry1
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on August 22, 2014, 02:24:59 PM
That was very unkind, Colin. But not worth really worrying about. It is obvious that you would have accepted the Compensation if you were only worried about the money. Although perhaps you should have done. Hindsight is a wonderful thing.
Is there any reason for why you can't accept it now?
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: John on August 22, 2014, 03:09:54 PM
Hi again Colin. Can I ask do you have help with caring for your wife, home helps or other family members possibly? I ask this because my father in law (97) spent the last year of his life virtually bed bound and had a string of carers attend him daily. There is help out there for anyone wishing to nurse a family member at home, you only need to ask.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 23, 2014, 08:01:00 AM
Eleanor, John, I paid into the system since I was 15 years old, thank God I never had the need to use it prolifically, I use to go to work with cold's and flues and never thought any more of it, once I was made redundant at Thorn's Brima, Enfield, and had to claim unemployment that is when I started my business in 1984 and never looked back since.
But to answer your question, I would be please to be able to claim some of that money I have contributed all of my working life.
The problem I face is that to get any help I would have to declare my wife a nonperson, in other words I would have to apply through the higher authorities, approach my wives Doctor that is also mine, he has full knowledge of the incident at Costco's, I would have to tell him that I can no longer cope, he would have to approach the hospital and arrange for my wife to see (legally 2 experts) that have the authority to declare that she has no mental capacity.
Then I have to apply to the court to obtain a guardianship order that will permit me to speak on behalf of my wife, so at the same time she belongs to the government she is nothing more than an object in number, they have full control of her she is no longer mine.
I have to apply for permission every given period to be able to do anything for her,
I certainly did not vote for this rubbish that have confronted me. Who on earth have given the government the right to create such laws, I know it is an administration law that can be fought against but for working people that is a no go area.
I strongly believe we have no right to take away somebody's human rights as long as they are alive, especially if they have a spouse who cares tremendously to do all they can.
John, I have no help at all, my elder son would try once a fortnight to come round to relieve me so I can go out and do some shopping for at least two or three weeks provisions, he has a demanding job in the city, so I cannot put a lot of strain on him.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 23, 2014, 09:54:52 AM
That was very unkind, Colin. But not worth really worrying about. It is obvious that you would have accepted the Compensation if you were only worried about the money. Although perhaps you should have done. Hindsight is a wonderful thing.
Is there any reason for why you can't accept it now?
Eleanor, my wife's case is closed, to obtain whatever money they had decided to give her, I would have to obtain a guardianship order, and asked the court could I have control of the money, to be able to have it released and that is not a guarantee, I believe there is a lot of scams when it comes to money held in court funds.
Please take a look at Len's case, http://www.oprus2001.co.uk/pilot.htm he had the same official Solicitor as my wife in charge of his case, May Maughan, with the assistance of my wives solicitor and a judicial body they have managed to take full control of my wife's human rights and accepted whatever offer they had decided on, and ended the case. We have not had any correspondent from the court, as far as the court is concerned my wife does not exist, all correspondence goes to May Maughan, I believe this person is up to no good, for me to take charge of my wife I would have to apply to the court to obtain a guardianship order after I have 2 experts declaring she has no mental capacity, but May Maughan has manage to have control without any such orders, she is unknown to all of us I am my wives spouse but she overrides all of our human rights, why?
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on August 23, 2014, 10:08:47 AM
Eleanor, my wife's case is closed, to obtain whatever money they had decided to give her, I would have to obtain a guardianship order, and asked the court could I have control of the money, to be able to have it released and that is not a guarantee, I believe there is a lot of scams when it comes to money held in court funds.
Please take a look at Len's case, http://www.oprus2001.co.uk/pilot.htm he had the same official Solicitor as my wife in charge of his case, May Maughan, with the assistance of my wives solicitor and a judicial body they have managed to take full control of my wife's human rights and accepted whatever offer they had decided on, and ended the case. We have not had any correspondent from the court, as far as the court is concerned my wife does not exist, all correspondence goes to May Maughan, I believe this person is up to no good, for me to take charge of my wife I would have to apply to the court to obtain a guardianship order after I have 2 experts declaring she has no mental capacity, but May Maughan has manage to have control without any such orders, she is unknown to all of us I am my wives spouse but she overrides all of our human rights, why?
It is a fact of this particular situation, Colin. And you don't want to do any of the things that you might be able to. But believe me, I do understand why. Just don't cut off your nose to spite your face. And I do mean that kindly.
The thing now is, what can you do?
Are you receiving any sort of Care Allowance? Are you receiving Supplementary Benefits? Can you afford at least to employ a Cleaner for the house?
None of this is any of my business, so please don't answer if you would rather not.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 23, 2014, 10:41:50 AM
Eleanor, to get any help, I would have to go through the procedures required as above, I have to do everything myself, I'm lucky that I have all the domestic appliance required to run an efficient home.
Well as for my future, God only knows, if I do not take stringent actions to try to bring this form of behaviour to an end, then there would be many victims to follow, apparently the corruption amongst the legal and judicial system is horrific, when it comes to victims of this sort, all I say is don't listen to them when they get an opportunity to condemn me.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on August 23, 2014, 11:15:10 AM
Eleanor, to get any help, I would have to go through the procedures required as above, I have to do everything myself, I'm lucky that I have all the domestic appliance required to run an efficient home.
Well as for my future, God only knows, if I do not take stringent actions to try to bring this form of behaviour to an end, then there would be many victims to follow, apparently the corruption amongst the legal and judicial system is horrific, when it comes to victims of this sort, all I say is don't listen to them when they get an opportunity to condemn me.
I don't think I will do that, Colin. And I don't think that they will try.
Personally, I do think that some of your actions have not been in your own best interests, but I certainly do not doubt your best intentions for your wife. And nor can anyone else. Your wife doesn't even know what is going on, so as long as she is fed, clothed and housed then no great harm can come to her.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on August 24, 2014, 07:52:04 AM
Well Eleanor, I have tried to explain all the reasons why things happen the way it did, and backed by the Law Society, I have all the proof and documents. But they have a strong influence on the Internet and manage to have it all removed, if it was lies they should have sued me, but constantly threaten me but they did not have the stomach to take it to court, because if the law society saw it fit that they was professionally negligent in all the documents that I have sent, I guess they have not a leg to stand on in court, but yet they still have strong influence on having the document removed from the net.
I am responsible enough to know where to draw the line, but when people that is suppose to be non-bias have blatantly broke all the rules that we grew up believing that is our democratic right what are we suppose to do. I join the RAF because I believe that we were amicable, but this case have destroyed all of my belief and make me question am I on the right side, when they have openly shown me that what I believe in does not exist here.
Well Eleanor, this has nothing to do with money the reality is that Costco's stacked eight washing machines to the height of 30 feet, one half fell 2 of which hit my wife causing intensive damage to her, we have all the rights to expect in the UK that the authorities that we pay for would do the job's that they were employed to do, we certainly do not expect them to turn against the poor victim that has been destroyed, my wife's previous Doctor said, it would be different if she was killed, that is why we have the problems that we do, does it mean that we can presume to get justice if we are dead, if we cannot get it if we are life what chance would we have if we are dead?
Well I have manage to dig one of it up from the (waybackmachine) http://web.archive.org/web/20100204105921/http://homepage.mac.com/colinberry1/Media/James%20Millar%20Craig%20lied%201.htm
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on September 07, 2014, 11:01:58 AM
“Taking the law into your own hands”, we have been taught wrongfully is a violation of civil order and tantamount to “anarchy”. In reality, for citizens to judge legal matters for themselves is the highest civic virtue and the cornerstone of true democracy, according to the Athenian law maker Solon. The latter even believed that citizens should be fined or reprimanded for shrinking from a public controversy or from their inborn capacity to be lawgivers. http://itccs.org/the-common-law-and-its-courts-a-community-training-manual/
https://twitter.com/hashtag/itccs
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on September 09, 2014, 08:03:50 PM
How is your wife, Colin?
Glad to see you posting on other subjects.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on September 10, 2014, 01:02:55 PM
Well Eleanor, it is a mad nightmare, I thought I better start learning about what to expect in the future http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2011/07/how-do-alzheimers-patients-die.html
I am rushed off my feet as it is, but somehow with the help of God I manage to pull through, and we both survive another day, it must also be a nightmare for her living in such a confusion, forgetting everything she ever learn, but I cannot wash my hands of her, and I also promise her mum before she died, that I will always take care of her, and that certainly did not mean that I would put her in a home.
I had to buy a part for my car and asked my son to keep an eye on her when I was out, it shocked me how much the area had changed, roads, shops, businesses that have closed, I only use to make my way to do the groceries it is amazing how things move on and we are stuck in this pathetic mad world.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on September 10, 2014, 06:12:51 PM
Well Eleanor, it is a mad nightmare, I thought I better start learning about what to expect in the future http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2011/07/how-do-alzheimers-patients-die.html
I am rushed off my feet as it is, but somehow with the help of God I manage to pull through, and we both survive another day, it must also be a nightmare for her living in such a confusion, forgetting everything she ever learn, but I cannot wash my hands of her, and I also promise her mum before she died, that I will always take care of her, and that certainly did not mean that I would put her in a home.
I had to buy a part for my car and asked my son to keep an eye on her when I was out, it shocked me how much the area had changed, roads, shops, businesses that have closed, I only use to make my way to do the groceries it is amazing how things move on and we are stuck in this pathetic mad world.
Dear Colin,
It might not be a nightmare for your wife. You simply do not know. It is all probably much more of a nightmare for you. But try not to imagine what it is like for her.
You see, no one can help you because you won't allow them to. But that must remain your choice. And I admire you for that.
Just come here from time to time if it takes your mind off things.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on September 11, 2014, 09:36:57 AM
Eleanor, I could obtain help privately to give me a break and do our daily chores without depending on my son having to come from the city to relieve me so I can do our shopping and pay the bills, they have no right hanging on to the compensation and placing demands for us to accomplish, they have already committed their crimes all they have to do is release the money to us so we can get on with our lives without all this pressure placed upon us.
Our Solicitor had no right to bring in an official solicitor to represent us and close the case, especially when my wife have a spouse.
Channel 4 dispatches, is looking into this matter when the system is exploiting vulnerable people, in our case it was our own Solicitor that was willing to ignore all of his fiduciary duty to us, he basically created another injury on top of the one we already have and supported by a corrupted judiciary. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Dear FACT UK,
I am emailing from Nine Lives Media, and independent TV production company that makes current affairs programming for Channel 4 Dispatches.
We are currently researching a programme on the Mental Capacity Act, Deprivation of Liberty Safeguards and Court of Protection after learning that the act is being wrongly applied by care providers and local authorities. We have been investigating this after hearing from families who have been banned from visiting their loved ones in a residential care home setting after making a fair complaint about the standard of care the patient was receiving. In some cases the disagreement between the family and care provider has gone to the Court of Protection to decide whether it is in the best interest of the patient to have the ban upheld, depriving the patient of their right to a family life.
We have also heard from a few families who believe that a loved one has had their liberty wrongly deprived by a care home/the local authority and has had to take their appeal to the Court of Protection to get it overturned.
We would be really interested to hear your opinion on these issues and find out whether you have been contacted by any families who have had similar experiences to those mentioned above.
Looking forward to hearing your thoughts,
Katie Arnold _______________________________________________________________
Dear Katie Arnold,
I would like to add our Solicitor decided to use the mental capacity act against us because we wanted to take our case to court, he first threatened to remove himself off the record's, and decided when he realise that we was not changing our mind, to introduce the Official Solicitor that took over our position and ended the case.
I just wanted you to realise that it is not just the care providers and local authority, it is also used by corrupted solicitors, it is wrongly applied because the main reason is that the claimant has a spouse and family in our case.
Waiting reply
Free Ms Maureen Fernandes http://www.change.org/p/mr-norman-lamb-minister-of-state-for-care-and-support-free-ms-maureen-fernandes?tk=N46n0MuT8pSJ-yQ1F4-PYgLpnBlkPH4p_pkcZaM0bNE&utm_source=petition_update&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=petition_update_email
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on September 30, 2014, 08:30:30 AM
Commercial Liens: A Most Potent Weapon http://www.tirnasaor.com/profiles/blog/show?id=3214356:BlogPost:384798
Statism: The Most Dangerous Religion (feat. Larken Rose) http://www.tirnasaor.com/video/video/show?id=3214356%3AVideo%3A438682&xgs=1&xg_source=msg_share_video
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on October 13, 2014, 11:28:58 AM
Death Rattle, Signs of Dying: Are You Prepared? (Research, Video) https://www.linkedin.com/groups/Death-Rattle-Signs-Dying-Are-3711160.S.5926924177117298691?view=&item=5926924177117298691&type=member&gid=3711160&trk=eml-b2_anet_digest-hero-4-hero-disc-disc-0&midToken=AQGO7VLFQRCOMg&fromEmail=fromEmail&ut=0JSZfNqg7ip6s1
Death Rattle, Families, Signs of Dying (Research, Video 3:27) http://hospiceandnursinghomes.blogspot.co.uk/2014/10/death-rattle-families-signs-of-dying.html
2014 Lord Hardie, Chairman of the Committee on Mental Capacity “We were very concerned by what we heard about the safeguards. The evidence suggests that tens of thousands of people are being deprived of their
liberty without the protection of the law, and without the protection that Parliament intended Worse still, in some cases the safeguards are being wilfully
used to oppress individuals and to force decisions upon them. The Government needs to go back to the drawing board to draft replacement provisions that
are easy to understand and implement, and in keeping with the style and ethos of the Mental Capacity Act.”
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on November 07, 2014, 08:12:01 AM
Hi Colin. Terribly sorry to hear what happened to your wife. If there is anything I could do to help please let me know. Too bad how the civil justice system works in England. All the best, https://www.linkedin.com/inbox/#detail?itemId=S5936396485577965568_500&trk=COMM_NI
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on May 13, 2015, 07:20:30 PM
Well I thought I'll update my situation, unfortunately with all the stress and hardship I had a stroke on 19 November, my sons cared for my wive the weekend and had to put her in a home while I was in hospital for five days.
On discharge from hospital, my wife spent 3 days in a home in Enfield, I waited till my elders son finished work and the three of us went to the home to see her, at first I could not recognise her and asked my son where is she, he pointed to some woman pulling her trouser bottoms up, my son bought her some new closing to where, she was not use to wearing trousers so she was trying to pull it up.
I could not recognise her at all, the mind boggles, she was in a terrible state, to horrific to talk about, I just had to remove her from that place immediately, thanks to the taxi driver who had patients to wait, could you imagine the nightmare I put myself in, with half of my body numb and feeling like a block of wood.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on May 14, 2015, 11:08:55 AM
Dear Colin, I am so sorry that you have had to go through this. It must have been a nightmare, although at least they didn't try to stop you from taking her home. So no interference at the moment.
But you are going to have to get some help. Otherwise you are going to finish up incapacitated, if not worse. And then what will happen to her?
I know you don't want to ask for help, and I understand why, but it is now a Must I'm afraid.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on May 19, 2015, 01:07:39 PM
Hi Eleanor, thanks for answering my post. Well I wish it was as easy as that but the reality is something totally different, my son had to get a social worker to help him find a home when I was in hospital for that few days at short notice, the social worker seem to be efficient even though she was an African not living in the area, I have nothing against Africans but surely I have been contributing towards the system since I was 15 when I started my first job, never however needed any help in my life up to now and the best Edmonton can offer me is a social worker living out of the area and don't know what I'm talking about.
Anyway she had us filling all the forms required could not do it myself my elder son came down to help me do it while she was here, few weeks when by and she turn up to say that she was going to put another social worker on our case that was experience with brain injury for the benefit of my wife, I could see the logic in that an agreed.
Another several weeks when by waiting for help, then the new social worker, another African lady who doesn't live in the area and don't know the homes in the area, introduce herself and my son had to fill in another stack of forms, I said we had just filled one lot in, her reply was it was another department we need ours filled in for our department, and vanished for another few weeks.
She phone me a couple of times on the phone and asked me have I decided on the homes she offered three of the worse homes in the area, I told her one of them nearly kill my mother-in-law they had to bring the priest in to give her the last rites, we had to move her out of that home and she survive for another year in a half. She certainly expect us to be running around, my wife that cannot do anything, myself having a stroke on my left side haven't help me because I'm left-handed, she said she was going to call me back soon, after another several weeks she decided to call and told me that she was a trainee social worker and she may be finishing the training soon, I was totally shocked, I said, I thought you was a social worker that covered brain injury patients, she said nothing.
Since my stroke on November 19, I have not received any help at all, hardly any communication with the social workers to see how am I managing.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Eleanor on May 20, 2015, 12:16:21 PM
Can you somehow afford some Home Help? Just to do the cleaning and such like. Have you asked? Even incompetent, out of area Social Workers must have some idea of how to go about this. And possibly even get some small amount of funding.
I honestly can't think of anything else to suggest. But you shouldn't be left to cope with this alone.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on May 21, 2015, 09:04:18 AM
Eleanor, we should not be in this situation after a horrific accident that is no fault of ours, the money is in court funds, whatever it is? Gathering 12 years of interests.
Not being able to do much in my situation, I have pleaded with one of the larges firms in London for human rights to help me but with no results at all. It does not make any sense when the solicitors have walked away with £400,000 and we are just about surviving on our pensions.
In desperation March 06, 2014 11:09 AM From Colin Berry To Shubhaa Srinivasan
Hi Shubhaa, I do realize you are a very busy person, but I feel I have to talk to somebody like yourself about our position.
I have suffered with my wife for years because of the injustice that we have been left in, after reading your motto, “We're Leigh Day and we believe everyone has the right to justice and for their voice to be heard.” I felt if anyone could hear our case it would be you, I do understand that you are extremely busy but we are prepared to wait as long as it takes we have already waited for years being a 24/7 carer for my wife it has been nothing more then a great hardship for both of us.
Well our scenario begin when washing machines fell from the height of 30 feet and it hit my wife missing me, the solicitor I employed never bothered to see my wife after eight months from the accident, I was too concern of her to realize that he was breaking all the CPR rules at the time but when I realize all what he had done it was too late to help my wife but only to contact the Law Society, after reading all the documents they told me there was nothing they could do, they had informed the firms insurers and I would have to sue the firm if I wanted to take it any further, but this is not what I need you for, we are stuck in a horrible situation where my wife compensation is held in court funds and there is nothing I can do about it being a 24 7 carer I cannot pursue their demands, I believe we have not been given any written Court order about the demands.
I believe this link could help you to understand the horrific problems we have had, after removing the first solicitor of the record, he must have said to the new solicitor that we were troublemakers and determine to cause problems, and that was the beginning of a continuous nightmare. http://colinberry2.wordpress.com/2013/12/12/pleading-for-justice/
I believe we are connected on LinkedIn, but did not ask you for help because I thought it may place you in an awkward position this late in the day, but I am extremely desperate now I would not like to see my wife die without seeing a penny of her compensation. http://colinberry2.wordpress.com/2013/12/12/pleading-for-justice/
I best end now and hope that you would think about it.
Hi Eleanor, thanks for answering my post. Well I wish it was as easy as that but the reality is something totally different, my son had to get a social worker to help him find a home when I was in hospital for that few days at short notice, the social worker seem to be efficient even though she was an African not living in the area, I have nothing against Africans but surely I have been contributing towards the system since I was 15 when I started my first job, never however needed any help in my life up to now and the best Edmonton can offer me is a social worker living out of the area and don't know what I'm talking about.
Anyway she had us filling all the forms required could not do it myself my elder son came down to help me do it while she was here, few weeks when by and she turn up to say that she was going to put another social worker on our case that was experience with brain injury for the benefit of my wife, I could see the logic in that an agreed.
Another several weeks when by waiting for help, then the new social worker, another African lady who doesn't live in the area and don't know the homes in the area, introduce herself and my son had to fill in another stack of forms, I said we had just filled one lot in, her reply was it was another department we need ours filled in for our department, and vanished for another few weeks.
She phone me a couple of times on the phone and asked me have I decided on the homes she offered three of the worse homes in the area, I told her one of them nearly kill my mother-in-law they had to bring the priest in to give her the last rites, we had to move her out of that home and she survive for another year in a half. She certainly expect us to be running around, my wife that cannot do anything, myself having a stroke on my left side haven't help me because I'm left-handed, she said she was going to call me back soon, after another several weeks she decided to call and told me that she was a trainee social worker and she may be finishing the training soon, I was totally shocked, I said, I thought you was a social worker that covered brain injury patients, she said nothing.
Since my stroke on November 19, I have not received any help at all, hardly any communication with the social workers to see how am I managing.
Hi Colin. I never discuss my condition, but maybe on this occasion I should...................................
I had a lot of support from social workers, specialists, doctors etc, when I first became disabled (suddenly after an illness), but not now. I have had to pay for a carer, gardener, cleaner, house adaptions and all the necessary aids, required by someone who is bedbound, except for my hospital anti-pressure bed.
I suppose that you already know that you can get no assistance if you have more than £23,000 in the bank, have a private pension or own your home(because you don't have to pay rent).
Its the usual.......If you have worked hard and gone without to buy your own home, you are penalised when you are disabled.
I have considered moving into a nursing home, to relieve my family of caring for me. My brain and my hands are the only functioning parts of my body left and it is a struggle coping, so I sympathise greatly with yourself and your wife.
My husband is diabetic with a now dormant brain tumour and gets confused and easily angered. We have no compensation due, but just do what we can with what we have. I'm afraid that is all one can do.
I have regular GP visits(mainly for pain control) but the social work management support teams have been stopped by the government, so I don't see them now and miss their advice.
I hope you can get it all sorted soon..........I know what a nightmare it can be.
If I can help in any way, please ask and I will try to be of assistance.
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Post by: colinberry1 on May 21, 2015, 11:31:16 AM
Hi Anna, thank you for answering my post, I'm sorry to hear of your circumstances, I'm glad somebody understands the difficulties we are going through, it is extremely hard, sometimes I pray that God would take us both as soon as possible, the strain is horrific a living nightmare.
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Post by: Anna on May 21, 2015, 11:54:34 AM
Hi Anna, thank you for answering my post, I'm sorry to hear of your circumstances, I'm glad somebody understands the difficulties we are going through, it is extremely hard, sometimes I pray that God would take us both as soon as possible, the strain is horrific a living nightmare.
You must try and ride above those feeling Colin. I have had such feelings too. Keep occupied and try to plan what you can do next, to hopefully alleviate your stress and your wife's condition. I plan and manage the home and garden from my bed. I enjoy that and being on the forum(when my hands will allow.
Are you having therapy for your paralysis?
Can you not get a home carer to care for your wife?
A live-in carer is cheaper than a residential home, if you have enough rooms......Not an option for me as I need a nursing care too, to an extent.
There is also the option of a care assisted flat/bungalow where you can be helped in a warden controlled building. Have a look and try the council for help.
You could do with a holiday where they have carers on site. Have a look on the internet. Ask your GP about the £700 you can have towards a holiday and they should arrange it.
I guess you already know all of the above, but just trying to help.
Keep your chin up and work through it, but don't give yourself another stroke.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on May 21, 2015, 01:26:01 PM
Anna things are far worst here then you can imagine, I'm not the sort of person who pray for God to please remove us from this awful world, so it must be horrific. As for holidays, we have not had a holiday since my wife’s accident at Costco's no holiday for coming on 13 years not even the short break not even a day to myself.
Believe me if you really want to help, please pray for us both to go together as soon as possible. We don't really want anything from this corrupted and evil society.
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Post by: Anna on May 21, 2015, 02:02:25 PM
Colin,
I know things are bad, but you mustn't think like that.
Call your doctor and go and see him or arrange a visit.
And get something arranged so that you can get away for a couple of days at least. Can your son take over for a couple of days?
I know that the system is dreadful when it comes to carers and the severely disabled, but you can book a holiday in a care assisted holiday place without any help from the government.
Priority right now.................Is you getting a break.
We gave up on holidays too, a long time ago.
If this accident was 12 years ago, why are you still waiting for compensation?
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on May 21, 2015, 06:04:19 PM
I am totally exhausted, if you know what I have just been through, having to fight with the poo trying to change my wife with her struggling and having to clean and sterilise everything, I wouldn't take this job on for £1000 an hour but do it in the name of love for nothing.
If you get the time to read the link to the Solicitor, yes I am wondering why we have not been paid, nor one is giving me any answers, I'm talking to a brick wall, you would not think it is possible, well here it is, believe it or not.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Anna on May 21, 2015, 07:44:57 PM
Sorry, Colin, I was trying to help in a practical way, but I now realise that it is the compensation issue that you need help with.
I read the letters and some of your old posts. Its dreadful how people are being treated. If I divorced my husband, I would get all the help I need ?8)@)-) Its daft and needs sorting.
I hope you can get the compensation sorted soon. The extra cash would give you more options on how to care for your wife, but I have no idea where you should start, to get at that compensation money.
A live-in carer and an extension seems the best option, if you do not want her in a care home, but you would probably need the compensation to pay for it. I don't know.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on May 22, 2015, 09:26:01 AM
Anna thanks, full marks for you for asking the question that should have been asked by everybody, don't it make you wonder whose side they are on? Solicitors keep their mouth shut and look the other way, I can only say that they are all corrupted in the UK, being silence is just as much as being guilty of the crime.
Well yes it's the crime that they are hiding from, this case is riddled with corruption against a poor individual with horrific injuries not being able to fight back, that is how low the legal and judicial system in this country is, at present this is an extremely sick country, there isn't any logical reason why they should hold a plaintiff's compensation for 12 years depriving her of her human rights in every way, and pay the professionals involve £400,000 for their efforts.
I have to use whatever little we have for Private medication costing £100 a month to keep her well and pay for her disposable pants that the authorities would only allow her one in a half pants a day, I don't know how many times do you all go to toilet in 24 hours, I have to check her every 2 to 3 hours making sure that she is not wet, I could not live with myself knowing that she is sitting in urine or poo.
I never knew that I could have ask for help with her disposable pants mention the social worker, I suppose I should be grateful for that 1 1/2 pants a day costing £1.50 we are not told anything, I know by my business I ran, my Muslim customers had all their entitlements that they were entitled to, helped and educated about by their Islamic social club, but not my English customers, pathetic.
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: Anna on May 24, 2015, 04:49:25 PM
Anna thanks, full marks for you for asking the question that should have been asked by everybody, don't it make you wonder whose side they are on? Solicitors keep their mouth shut and look the other way, I can only say that they are all corrupted in the UK, being silence is just as much as being guilty of the crime.
Well yes it's the crime that they are hiding from, this case is riddled with corruption against a poor individual with horrific injuries not being able to fight back, that is how low the legal and judicial system in this country is, at present this is an extremely sick country, there isn't any logical reason why they should hold a plaintiff's compensation for 12 years depriving her of her human rights in every way, and pay the professionals involve £400,000 for their efforts.
I have to use whatever little we have for Private medication costing £100 a month to keep her well and pay for her disposable pants that the authorities would only allow her one in a half pants a day, I don't know how many times do you all go to toilet in 24 hours, I have to check her every 2 to 3 hours making sure that she is not wet, I could not live with myself knowing that she is sitting in urine or poo.
I never knew that I could have ask for help with her disposable pants mention the social worker, I suppose I should be grateful for that 1 1/2 pants a day costing £1.50 we are not told anything, I know by my business I ran, my Muslim customers had all their entitlements that they were entitled to, helped and educated about by their Islamic social club, but not my English customers, pathetic.
Hi Colin, If I divorced or capable of having 4,5,6 or more babies with no partner. I would get lots of help. We are a minority which reflects in the inadequate attention received by those with the power to help. The severity of your disability does not come into it. I know of several people who are classed as disabled and can walk around indoors and out, without support of any kind. Like you we have spent a fortune on necessities and the carer costs are getting ridiculous with double fees for weekends and BHs. I wish we had never purchased our house or saved our money when we did. If they don't catch you with your disability needs, they will catch you when you are old and need care. Quite disgusting and a bit prejudice against the disabled and elderly who do not live in council property. I should have known years ago. Before I lose my home too(should I live that long) I will be selling it very cheaply to my children and paying it back in advance rent. I have washed my hands of any help possibly emerging. Why are you paying for medication?
Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on May 24, 2015, 10:51:24 PM
Hi Anna, the people who rule us have a good reason why they do everything they do, there is a reason for all their behaviour, I know it is difficult for us to understand unless you know the whole motive of their behaviour, I believe some of it could be found through David Ickes books and many others, since I have embark on this journey trying to understand why things are the way they are, people have sent me off in different directions hunting the answers, and it is amazing how things come together and it all makes sense eventually. Interesting interview, founder off project Camelot and Project Avalon. https://youtu.be/y4UyEUldOLQ
As for the medication, my wife is at the very late stage she cannot afford to lose an inch more memory it would probably be the end of her, so I buy her Prevagen hoping that it would prevent that other inch from going, so far we are where we are, and hanging on to what little life is left for her, it may be that I'm living in hope but I know she cannot forget how to eat or drink, she was going down that road so I had to do something it may be grasping at straws, but that is all we have. I also give her Waterfall D-Mannose to prevent UTI infection it's supposed to be very good, because a lot of people in her position seemed to die of it, I must be doing something right after all she has survive 12 years many of the people and the family carers have lost their loved ones since I first communicated with them on the Internet.
I think one of the reasons they are treating me the way they are doing is because I belong to a lot of groups that they hate, who are exposing them for what they are, but I sooner die knowing that I have tried to do something rather then doing nothing.
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Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on June 01, 2015, 07:00:18 AM
Well I am studying Islamic religion at present, after being a Catholic all my life, passed down from my grandparents and parents. Going by the behaviour of our solicitors and the judicial behaviour to us, especially my wife, they have committed “haram”, pathetic our judiciary as broken the laws of the Koran and have made a mockery out of Islam. http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-and-support/134325783-parents-earning-haram.html#post2847453
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Post by: colinberry1 on June 12, 2015, 11:27:50 AM
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Post by: colinberry1 on June 22, 2015, 11:48:35 AM
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Title: Re: responsibilities
Post by: colinberry1 on May 04, 2017, 05:03:43 PM
We are still alive only time will tell the truth shall set us free, how a corrupted system destroyed two people's lives and all of those who depended on them.
I hope they can spend the money they made in hell.
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