I'm sorry if you don't believe me Ian, but I've seen families almost break down because one persons response to loss has been what was considered abnormal. There's one particular episode that's sticking in my mind, but I don't particularly want to put it on a public forum, because the events were very specific, and were also quite public. I'll have a chat with my conscience, and I may PM you the details.
I'd just like to reaffirm that I believe that JB is guilty as sin - but it's the physical evidence that leads me to that conclusion.
I think we have got crossed wires somewhat. It is not because of his lack of grief but rather it is the callous manner he behaved. I also have seen people grieve in all sorts of ways and it is totally normal. What I consider abnormal is the sheer callousness and inappropriate behaviour that he displayed. No-one has to grieve in a certain way but I do consider some actions to be way beyond the pale and highly insensitive. These were deliberate acts nothing to do with grief at all. Let us not confuse the two.
I will give you some examples; Bamber in church; Looks at his watch, yawns and states to his friends 'times up, lets get out of here!'
Outside when entering the church and out of earshot of the press '
Look at these vultures (referring to his relatives)
If they think they are going to get a penny, they are very much mistaken! ' I do not consider this to be to some form of 'grief' in any means shape or form. It is acts such as these that alert the police in the first place. It indicates that there is usually something wrong or something is not quite right.
DS Stan Jones sensed Bamber was 'putting it on' outside the farm when told of the death of his family. Bamber was clearly acting. Acted out grief and real grief can be detected.
If I had witenessed this first hand I would have been extremely offended. So, too I imagine would alot of other people.