I'm sorry: it's going round and round my head so I thought I'd share the experience with you!

I think there's a lot of misappreciation of how fully integrated into society someone with ASD can be, so that neither they, nor someone not well versed in it, would realise. All the top figures in the computing world, for example, from Steve Jobs to Bill Gates, have ASD.
Someone with ASD can build up encyclopaedic knowledge of other people (that's what a very clever Aspie invented Facebook for) but not pick up on the fact that, for example, they are annoying their best friend or have just dropped a social clanger. If they do upset someone, they will probably be oblivious to the fact and astonished if told and then either express incredulity or regret depending on their self confidence. Their responses are learned by observation. They aren't automatons: they have the full range of emotions, they are perfectly capable of understanding that others have them as well, they will hug you if you are crying, but they tend to need to relate what you are feeling by imagining how they would feel if it was them (for this reason my eldest can't bear watching anything other than factual TV programmes).
The key thing they miss is facial expressions and little social cues. I can think of 3 family members who have said really angrily out loud 'WHAT ARE YOU KICKING ME FOR?!' and 'STOP NUDGING ME!' on multiple occasions

Ever watched Benedict Cumberbatch in Sherlock?
I might suggest to the lawyer that he have Simon Baron-Cohen check him out, but I'm not keen on the idea of sending my address to a prison. If it were me, I'd be courting JM: if JB is innocent she is the one means by which he might definitively prove it.