"You can't tar EVERYONE with the same brush"!!!!! That's EXACTLY what you're doing when you claim that ALL adopted children are bought up by loving parents -and bear in mind whilst you're mouthing off at me, that "weirdos" is your own, all encompassing expression, NOT mine.
Do you know that there's a counselling agency dedicated to those who've been damaged by adoption? They wouldn't do that for a handful. Do you have such an overblown sense of your own self importance that you believe you're the only one here to have any personal experiences which matter? I can only speak from personal experience, OK! It's my only frame of reference. I'm fully aware that ALL families have problems. I'm only talking about families which include adopted children, NOR am I talking about what happens now -hopefully, they're more careful about where, and with whom, children are placed.
Do I "think married couples jump through hoops to adopt a child without WANTING a child to love"? Sadly, some do. Some are prepared to put up with the mess and inconvenience they believe a small child will cause because they believe the child, as an adult, will be useful to them later. Their plans for the child stretch no further than it giving up it's right to a full life by becoming their full time carer -without asking it's permission- on the grounds they'd believe it would want to out of gratitude.
The ignorance, behind your blind belief that everything in the adoption garden is rosy, is an insult to those for whom it's been anything but.
So you’re saying married couples adopt a young child, go through all the hard work of bringing them up, including the huge financial costs, just so they can look after them when they become old and infirm?!
Never thought of that one before, and your suggestion couples give up their freedom, devote time to raising their adopted child, spending hundreds of thousands doing it — just so they can become personal careers for when THEY’RE older is not only a strange reason — it doesn’t add up!
Why not save all those hundreds of thousands and employ a personal live-in carer when they’re older?!
You talk as though some couples adopt to get themselves a slave. How about people who “adopt” animals? Are they after a slave? When couples can’t adopt a child they often compensate by buying themselves a pet — who they usually ADORE and spoil. If you’re saying humans aren’t capable of loving their adopted child as much as a dog or a cat, we will have to agree to disagree.
You’re also forgetting that if a couple adopt a child who’s, say, a toddler or older, then often that child will already be damaged in some way. Maybe you’re taking statistics from that group, rather than where couples adopt BABIES (such as the Bambers’ did) in which they haven’t been subjected to a horrendous upbringing by a parent who could be a drug addict, mentally unstable, cruel, neglectful etc. Of course those children will already be affected, and that’ll make the adoption process harder. But adopting a baby doesn’t bring with it the trauma the child may have been subjected to.
