Is the apportioning of blame a coping mechanism?

[stephen25000]

clarity is exactly what the mccanns are seeking

Clarity ????

Talk about clichés.

[Alfred R Jones]

This is precisely what I find cumbersome about your debating tactics.

"What did you mean by "the parents should have taken the hit" then?"  You said this, while I didn't.  What I said was I would have taken the hit. 

The McCanns didn't then and haven't since, unless you have clear example.  In the absence of a clear example, what stands is qualified examples, and if my child or grandchild had been stolen, trust me, I would seek clarity.

Please don't repeat the 'they are not wholly to blame angle'.  I said that in my original post, as is clear for all to see.

Why is what you would have done relevant to this discussion, unless as an implicit criticism because they did not do what you would have done?

[slartibartfast]

and to publicly blame themselves would have only helped an abductor to feel that he was not really at fault.

...and we wouldn't want an abductor not to feel as guilty.

[Brietta]

...and we wouldn't want an abductor not to feel as guilty.

I don't really know if an abductor would be capable of feeling guilt particularly if he has been reading what his apologists have to say not only about his lack of culpability but about his very existence.

[mercury]

I don't really know if an abductor would be capable of feeling guilt particularly if he has been reading what his apologists have to say not only about his lack of culpability but about his very existence.

to doubt that there was an abductor is not to "apologise for a real one"

Please dont use the word aplogists for an abductor its very very ugly and untrue

[Alfred R Jones]

...and we wouldn't want an abductor not to feel as guilty.

???  Doesn't that go without saying? 

[Alfred R Jones]

If I were the abductor of Madeleine McCann reading about how it is her parents to blame for "facilitating" my crime, I would feel completely let off the hook.

[Alice Purjorick]

If I were the abductor of Madeleine McCann reading about how it is her parents to blame for "facilitating" my crime, I would feel completely let off the hook.

How strange.

[mercury]

If I were the abductor of Madeleine McCann reading about how it is her parents to blame for "facilitating" my crime, I would feel completely let off the hook.

Not if SY have you feeling "hot under the collar" due to their progress, as per Briettas conclusions lol

And dont be so facetious......no one is saying the abductor...gosh... the more the abductor is mentioned the more he sounds like dr who....is let off if he exists.....alleged abduction entirely  his/her fault/blame

[Alfred R Jones]

How strange.

What is strange?

[Alice Purjorick]

What is strange?

Your post 96. It scarcely makes sense.

[Alfred R Jones]

Your post 96. It scarcely makes sense.

Why not?  If you committed a criminal act but read online that everyone blamed your victims and not you (including the victims themselves) for the criminal act wouldn't that make you feel better about yourself?

[Miss Taken Identity]

...and we wouldn't want an abductor not to feel as guilty.

Well it was Ok becaus Kate forgave the abductor/s.... whilst hating Amaral.. Hmm

[Mr Gray]

Well it was Ok becaus Kate forgave the abductor/s.... whilst hating Amaral.. Hmm

ever heard of context

[Alice Purjorick]

Why not?  If you committed a criminal act but read online that everyone blamed your victims and not you (including the victims themselves) for the criminal act wouldn't that make you feel better about yourself?

That is not what is happening or has been said is it?